Qualifications

Please call to request a date no less than six months in advance. In Episcopal tradition we normally do not perform weddings on Sundays, or in the seasons of Advent (4 weeks before Christmas) or Lent (6 weeks before Easter) and it is normally expected that those who are married are members of Emmanuel, or desire to become members.

The permission of the parish clergy is required for every wedding at Emmanuel and weddings are performed at the discretion of the clergy person.

We must abide by the Canon Law of the Episcopal Church for all weddings. Below are the requirements as set forth in the Canons.

CANON 18: Of the Solemnization of Holy Matrimony

Sec. 1. Every Member of the Clergy of this Church shall conform to the laws of the State governing the creation of the civil status of marriage, and also to the laws of this Church governing the solemnization of Holy Matrimony.
Sec. 2. Before solemnizing a marriage the Member of the Clergy shall have ascertained:
(a) That both parties have the right to contract a marriage according to the laws of the State.
(b) That both parties understand that Holy Matrimony is a physical and spiritual union of a man and a woman, entered into within the community of faith, by mutual consent of heart, mind, and will, and with intent that it be lifelong.
(c) That both parties freely and knowingly consent to such marriage, without fraud, coercion, mistake as to identity of a partner, or mental reservation.
(d) That at least one of the parties has received Holy Baptism.?(e) That both parties have been instructed as to the nature, meaning, and purpose of Holy Matrimony by the Member of the Clergy, or that they have both received such instruction from persons known by the Member of the Clergy to be competent and responsible.
Sec. 3. No Member of the Clergy of this Church shall solemnize any marriage unless the following procedures are complied with:
(a) The intention of the parties to contract marriage shall have been signified to the Member of the Clergy at least thirty days before the service of solemnization; Provided, that for weighty cause, this requirement may be dispensed with if one of the parties is a member of the Congregation of the Member of the Clergy, or can furnish satisfactory evidence of responsibility.
In case the thirty days' notice is waived, the Member of the Clergy shall report such action in writing to the Bishop immediately.
(b)There shall be present at least two witnesses to the solemnization of marriage.
(c) The Member of the Clergy shall record in the proper register the date and place of the marriage, the names of the parties and their parents, the age of the parties, their residences, and their Church status; the witnesses and the Member of the Clergy shall sign the record.
. (d) The Member of the Clergy shall have required that the parties sign the following declaration:
. (e) "We, A.B. and C.D., desiring to receive the blessing of Holy Matrimony in the Church, do solemnly declare that we hold marriage to be a lifelong union of husband and wife as it is set forth in the Book of Common Prayer.
. (f) "We believe that the union of husband and wife, in heart, body, and mind, is intended by God for their mutual joy; for the help and comfort given one another in prosperity and adversity; and, when it is God's will, for the procreation of children and their nurture in the knowledge and love of the Lord.
. (g) "And we do engage ourselves, so far as in us lies, to make our utmost effort to establish this relationship and to seek God's help thereto."
Sec. 4. It shall be within the discretion of any Member of the Clergy of this Church to decline to solemnize any marriage.

If one or both parties have been divorced, proof of divorce must be supplied. An application must also be sent to the Bishop's office for approval. The Diocese of Long Island has a "three strikes and you are out" rule for re-marriage after divorce.

It is possible to have a blessing of a civil marriage if so desired.

The Diocese of Long Island permits the marriage of same gender and opposite gender couples as allowed by NY State Law.
The Episcopal Church requires that "sufficient counseling" be given to the couple prior to marriage. Traditionally this equals three, one-hour sessions with the clergy person. If counseling has been completed with another clergy person or therapist, a letter stating as such must be sent to the church office.

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