An Episcopal wedding is first and foremost a time of worship
and the solemn exchange of vows. The Book of Common Prayer is
our primary guide for worship and weddings. A service without
Holy Communion is around 30 minutes long. A service with Holy
Communion is around 1 hour long. Only the vows from the BCP
are permitted during the service. If you would like personalized
vows, we suggest you make time at the reception to recite them.
Please see the service outline on page 7.
Our organist gets right of first refusal for weddings at Emmanuel.
If you wish to use a different organist, you must discuss it
with the Priest in Charge. Please be sure to call the organist
right away to make arrangements. Music should be sacred in nature.
You need to provide the flowers. Florists must call ahead to
arrange for set up and clean up. Unannounced visits are not
You are responsible for providing bulletins for your wedding.
A sample bulletin is available upon request.
Emmanuel traditionally has two candles on the altar. If you
wish to use additional candles, please consult the Priest in
Charge. We do not allow "unity candles."
Rice, Rose Petals & Birdseed:
Throwing rice at the couple is not allowed, as it is unhealthy
for birds. Additionally, the dropping of rose petals or other
flowers inside the church is not permitted. If you desire to
throw something at the couple, birdseed is allowed (outside
only). Bubbles or biodegradable confetti are also acceptable
We understand the desire to capture the joy of your wedding
day in pictures and video. Due to the sacred nature of the wedding
service, photography inside the church must honor the sacredness
of the service. Flash photography is not permitted except when
the bride/groom enters at the beginning and when the couple
exits at the end. Photographers/videographers are not to approach
the altar or act in an obtrusive or distracting manner. Please
share this information with your photographer before the day
of the wedding.
For members of Emmanuel in good standing who are on record as
financially supporting the church, there are no usage fees for
the building. If you are not a pledging member or "giver
of record" the fee for use of the church is $350.00. There
are other customary fees: an honorarium for the priest (check
to be made out to Emmanuel Church, and will be used for charitable
purposes) and a fee for the organist (check made out to organist).
The suggested honorarium for the priest is $200.00. The fee
for the organist is $250.00 for the service. All fees and gifts
to the church are best done at the rehearsal or directly prior
to the service.
It is the responsibility of the couple to obtain and properly
fill out the marriage license. Sometimes in the excitement of
the day, couples forget this important detail. It is best to
have the marriage license, church registers, and declarations
of intent signed at the rehearsal. The priest in charge will
sign and date the license on the wedding day. If you do not
bring the marriage license, there will be no wedding.
Alcohol and Drugs
It is not permissible for the wedding party to have alcoholic
beverages or other intoxicating substances before the ceremony.
If the couple, or any of the members of the wedding party, are
visibly intoxicated or under the influence of illegal substances,
they will be asked to leave the church and will not be able
to participate in the service.
1. Come worship with us. (Sundays at 8am or 10am)
2. Introduce yourself to the Rev. Lauren McLeavey.
3. Schedule a meeting with her.
4. At that meeting we will go over all of the above and discuss
5. We will then set the date.
6. If you have already locked in the date for your reception
before you talk to the church, you may be disappointed that
your date is not available.
Emmanuel Episcopal Church Office: 631-581-3964
320 Great River Rd. PO Box 586
Great River, NY 11739
The Rev. Lauren T. McLeavey, Priest in Charge
Mr. John Anzalone, Organist